Barffie The Whine Connoisseur

You know, even a couple like Jeffwee and I faces communication meltdown sometimes. We communicate well, usually. We are open to sharing our thoughts and opinions and we usually have healthy discussions about stuff…

But once in a while, all hell break loose when both parties just want to get the last word in…

Me: Blah blah some stupid comment about some stupid thing
Him: Why you put it like that?
Me: I didn’t mean it like that. It was actually talking about xyzdef.
Him: It didn’t seem like it to me. It was more like you are abctuv!?
Me: No lah, why you so qwemnb?
Him: Blah blah
Me: Blah blah!!! *gets ready to run off to avoid further confrontation*
Him: Blah blah blah
Me: Fine! It’s always my fault! Sorry! *starts crying and then runs off somewhere*
Him: Why are you running?
Me: I have to! I don’t want to continue talking in anger!
Him: We ought to sort it out here and then!
Me: Blah blah blah *garbled*
Him: *hold on to my arm to stop me from leaving* Blah blah blah!

*ASSPLOSION*
…

And somehow we manage to sleep in the same bed that night… grouchy, but I guess we usually sort out the crap before the night ends…

We still love each other… but times like that makes me wonder if fighting about who is right or wrong more important?

Or just having a mutual understanding to disagreements and flare-ups, much more important to a healthy relationship?

But if a pattern emerges… and it shows that there might be some serious flaws in our communication techniques with each other… What should we do?